Name: List the full name of your child. Also list the name he or she likes to be called.
Numbers: List their;
Social Insurance Number,
complete address, town, county, telephone numbers for home and work,
height, weight, shoe size, and clothing size.
More details: List your child's gender, fluent language and religion. Indicate whether your child is a Canadian Citizen.
Birth: List your child's date and time of birth, as well as any complications. List your child's birth weight and place of birth, as well as the city/town/country where he or she was raised.
Siblings: List the complete names, addresses and phone numbers of all sisters and brothers.
Marital status: List the marital status of your son or daughter with a disability. If married, list the spouse's name, his or her date of birth, the names of any children and their dates of birth. Also list any previous marriages, as well as the names, address and phone numbers of the spouses and children from each marriage.
Other Relationships: List special friends and relatives that your child knows and likes. Describe the relationships.
Guardians: Indicate whether any guardians have been appointed. List the name, address and phone number of each guardian and indicate whether that person is a guardian of the person or the guardian of the estate. If alternate guardians have been chosen, list their full names, addresses and phone numbers.
Trustee: Indicate whether you have set up a trust for your child and list the full names, addresses and phone numbers of all the trustee's.
Power of attorney: If anyone has power of attorney for your son or daughter, list the person's full name, address and phone number. Indicate whether this is an enduring power of attorney.
Final arrangements: Describe any arrangements that have been made for your child's funeral and burial. List the full names of companies or individuals, their addresses and phone numbers. Also list all payments made and specify what is covered. Otherwise, indicate your preferences for cremation or burial. Should there be a church service? If the preference is for burial, what is the best site? Should there be a monument? If cremation is the choice, what should be done with the remains?
MEDICAL HISTORY AND CARE
Diagnoses: List the two main diagnoses for your child's condition, such as autism, cerebral palsy, Down syndrome, epilepsy, impairment due to age, learning disorder, developmental handicap, neurological disorder, physical disabilities, psychiatric disorder or an undetermined problem.
Seizures: Indicate the seizure history of your son or daughter: no seizures; no seizures in the past two years; seizures under control; seizures in the past two years, but not in the past year; or seizures currently.
Functioning: Indicate your child's intellectual functioning level (mild, moderate, severe, profound, undetermined, etc.).
Vision: Indicate the status of your child's vision: normal, normal with glasses, impaired, legally blind, without functional vision, etc. List the date of the last eye test and what was listed on any prescription for eyeglasses.
Hearing: Indicate the status of your child's hearing: normal, normal with a hearing aid, impaired, deaf, etc.
Speech: Indicate the status of your child's speech: normal; impaired, yet understandable; requires sign language; requires use of communication device; non-communicative, etc.
Mobility: Indicate the level of your child's mobility; normal; impaired, yet self-ambulatory; requires some use of wheelchair or other assistance; dependent on wheelchair or other assistance; without mobility, etc.
Blood: List you child's blood type and any special problems concerning blood.
Insurance: List the type, amount and policy number of any life insurance covering your child. Indicate how this would change upon the death of either parent. Successive owner etc.
Regular physicians: List your child's regular physicians, including specialists. Include their full names, types of practice, addresses, phone numbers, the usual number of times your child visited them last year.
Previous physicians: List their full names, addresses, phone numbers, the type of practice and the most common reasons they saw your child. Describe any important findings or treatment.
Dentist: List the name, address, phone number of your child's dentist, as well as the frequency of exams. Indicate what special treatments or recommendation the dentist has made. Also list the best alternatives for dental care in case the current dentist is no longer available.
Nursing needs: Indicate your child's need for nursing care. List the reasons, procedures, nursing skill required, etc. Is this care usually provided at home, at a clinic or in a doctor's office?
Mental health: If your child has visited a psychiatrist, psychologist or mental health counsellor, list the name of each professional, the frequency of visits and the goals of the sessions.
Therapy: Does your child go to therapy (physical, speech or occupational)? List the purpose of each type of therapy, as well as the name, address and phone number of each therapist.
Diagnostic testing: List information about all diagnostic testing of your child in the past; the name of the individual and/or organization administering the test, address, phone number, testing dates and summary of findings. How often do you recommend that diagnostic testing be done? Where?
Genetic testing: List the findings of all genetic testing of your child and relatives. Also list the name of the individual and/or organization performing the tests, address, phone number and the testing dates.
Immunizations: List the type and dates of all immunizations.
Diseases: List all childhood diseases and the date of their occurrence. List any other infectious diseases your child has had in the past. List any infectious diseases your child currently has. Has your child been diagnosed as a carrier for any disease?
Allergies: List all allergies and current treatments. Describe past treatments and their effectiveness.
Other problems: Describe any special problems your child has, such as bad reactions to the sun or getting staff infections if he/she gets too hot.
Procedures: Describe any helpful hygiene procedures such as cleaning wax out of the ears every few months or trimming toenails. Are these procedures currently done at home or by a doctor or other professional? What do you recommend for the future?
Operations: List all operations and the dates and places of their occurrence.
Hospitalization: List any other periods of hospitalization your child has had. List the people you recommend to monitor your child's voluntary or involuntary hospitalizations and to act as liaison with doctors.
Birth control: If your child uses any kind of birth control pill or device, list the type, dates used and doctor prescribing it.
Devices: Does your child need any adaptive or prosthetic devices, such as glasses, braces, shoes, hearing aids or artificial limbs? List the manufacturing company(s).
Medication: List all prescription medication currently being taken plus the dosage and purpose of each one. Describe your feeling about the medications. List any particular medications that have proven effective for particular problems that have occurred frequently in the past and the doctor prescribing the medicine. List medications that have not worked well in the past and the reasons. Include medications that have caused allergic reactions.
OTC: List any over-the-counter medications that have proved helpful, such as vitamins or dandruff shampoo. Describe the conditions helped by these medications and the frequency of use.
Monitoring: Indicate whether your child needs someone to monitor the taking of medications or to apply ointments, etc. If so, who currently does this? What special qualifications would this person need?
Procurement: Does your child need someone to procure medications for him or her? If so, who?
Diet: If your child has a special diet of any kind, please describe it in detail and indicate the reasons for the diet. If there is no special diet, you might want to include tips about what works well for avoiding weight gain and for following the general guidelines of a balanced, healthy diet. You might also describe the foods your child likes best and tell where the recipes can be found for favorite dishes.
INFORMATION ABOUT FATHER: (Father’s name)
General information: List the father's full name, Social Insurance Number, complete address, phone numbers for home and work, town, date of birth, place of birth, city/town/country where raised, fluent languages, religion, blood type, number of sisters and\or brothers. Indicate whether he is a Canadian citizen.
Marital status: Indicate the father's current marital status. If he is currently married, list the date of that marriage, place of the marriage, and the number of children from that marriage. Also list the dates of any previous marriages; names of other wives; and names and birth dates of children from each marriage.
Family: List the complete names of the father's siblings and parents. For all those still living, list their addresses and phone numbers, as well as something about them.
INFORMATION ABOUT MOTHER: (Mother’s name)
General Information: List the mother's full name, Social Insurance Number, complete address, phone numbers for home and work, date of birth, place of birth, city/town/country where raised, fluent languages, religion, blood type, number of sisters and/or brothers. Indicate whether she is a Canadian citizen.
Marital status: Indicate the mother's current marital status. If she is currently married, list the date of that marriage, the place of the marriage, and the number of children from that marriage. Also list the dates of any previous marriages; names of other husbands; and names and birth dates of children from each marriage.
Family: List the complete names of the mother's siblings and parents. For all those still living, list their addresses and phone numbers, as well as something about them.
WHAT WORKS WELL FOR: (Child’s name)
Present: Describe your child's current living situation and indicate its advantages and disadvantages.
Past: Describe past living situations. What worked? What didn't?
Future: Describe in detail any plans that have been made for your child's future living situation. Describe your idea of the best living arrangement for your child at various ages or stages. For each age or stage, which of the following living arrangements would you prefer?
A relative's home (Which relative?)
Supported independent living in an apartment or house with hours of supervision.
A group home with no more than residents.
A private group home (Which one?)
Foster care for a child.
Adult foster care.
Parent-owned housing with hours of supervision.
Housing owned by your child with hours of supervision, etc.
Size: Indicate the minimum and maximum sizes of any residential option that you consider suitable.
Adaptation: Does the residence need to be adapted with ramps, grab bars or other assistive devices?
Favorites: List the favorite possessions that your child definitely would want to have in any living arrangement.
Community: List the types of places that would need to be conveniently reached from your child's home. Include favorite restaurants, shopping areas, recreation areas, libraries, museums, banks, etc.
DAILY LIVING SKILLS
IPP: Describe your child's current Individual Program Plan.
Current activities: Describe an average daily schedule. Also, describe activities usually done on "days off".
Monitoring: Discuss thoroughly whether your child needs someone to monitor or help with the following items.
Self-care skills like personal hygiene or dressing.
Domestic activities like housekeeping, cooking, doing laundry
Shopping for clothes, or shopping for groceries and cleaning supplies.
Transportation for daily commuting, recreational activities & emergencies.
Reinforcement of social and interpersonal activities with others to develop social skills.
Caregivers' attitudes: Describe how you would like caregivers to treat matters like sanitation, social skills (including table manners, appearance and relationships with the opposite sex). What values do you want caregivers to demonstrate?
Self-esteem: Describe how you best reinforce your child's self-esteem, discussing how you use praise and realistic goal setting.
Sleep habits: How much sleep does your child require? Does he or she have any special sleep habits or methods of waking up?
Personal finances: Indicate whether your child needs assistance with personal banking, bill payments and budgeting. If so, how much help is needed?
Allowance: Indicate whether you recommend a personal allowance for your child. If so, how much? Also, list your recommendations about supervision of how the allowance is spent.
Schools: List the schools your child has attended at various ages and the level of education completed in each program. Include early intervention, day care and transition programs.
Current programs: List the specific programs, schools and teachers your son or daughter has now. Include addresses and phone numbers.
Academics: Estimate the grade level of your child's academic skills in reading, writing, math, etc. List any special abilities.
Emphasis: Describe the type of educational emphasis (such as academic, vocational or community-based) that your child currently concentrates on. What educational emphasis do you think would be best for the future?
Integration: Describe the extent that your child has been in regular classes or schools during his or her education. What are your desires for the future? What kinds of undesirable conditions would alter those desires?
DAY PROGRAM OR WORK
Present: Describe your child's current day program and/or job.
Past: Describe past experiences. What worked? What didn't? Why?
Future: Discuss future objectives.
Assistance: Indicate to what extent, if any, your child needs assistance in searching for a job, in being trained, in becoming motivated, and in receiving support or supervision on the job.
LEISURE AND RECREATION
Structures recreation: Describe your child's structured recreational activities.
List favorite activities and the favorite people involved in each activity.
Unstructured activities: What are your child's favorite means of self-expression, interests and skills (going to movies, listening to music, dancing, collecting baseball cards, painting, riding a bicycle, roller skating, etc.)? List the favorite people involved in each activity.
Vacations: Describe your child's favorite vacations. Who organizes them? How often do they occur, and when are they usually scheduled?
Fitness: If your child participates in a fitness program, please describe the type of program, as well as details about where and when it takes place and who oversees it.
Faith: List which religion your child belongs to, if any. Indicate any particular denomination or church your child is a member of.
Clergy: List any religious leaders, ministers, priests or rabbis familiar with your child. Include the names of the churches, synagogues or religious organizations involved, list their address and phone numbers. Also indicate how often your child might like to be visited by these people.
Participation: Estimate how frequently your child would like to participate in services and other activities of the church, synagogue or religious organization. Indicate how this might change over time. Also describe any big events in the past.
RIGHTS AND VALUES
Please list the rights and values that should be accorded your child. Here are some examples of what you might list:
To be free from harm, physical restraint, isolation, abuse and excessive medication.
To refuse behavior modification techniques that causes pain.
To have age-appropriate clothing and appearance.
To have staff, if any, demonstrate respect and caring and to refrain from using demeaning language.
Give an overview of your child's life and your feeling and vision about the future. Describe anything else future caregivers and friends should know about your child.
FINANCES, BENEFITS AND SERVICES FOR:
Assets: List the total assets i.e. RDSP etc. your child has as of this date. Indicate how those assets are likely to change - if at all - in the future.
Cash income: List the various sources of income your child had last year. Include wages, government benefits, pension funds, trust income and other income this might include Canada Pension Plan, other Pension Plans, Disability Benefit.
Services and benefits: List any other services or benefits your child receives. These might be special services for children at home, home help; employment assistance; housing assistance; legal assistance; library services; and child special education; transportation assistance; and vocational rehabilitation services.
Gaps: Indicate whether any services or benefits are needed but are not being received by your child. Indicate whether plans exist to improve the current delivery of services or to obtain needed benefits.
Expenses: List all expenses paid directly by your child in various categories, such as housing, education, health care, recreation, vocational training and personal spending. List all expenses paid directly by parents, guardians or trustees in various categories. List estimates of all expenses paid by third parties, such as insurance companies, pay direct Health Plan or paying for residential services.
Changes: Indicate how your child's financial picture would change if one or both parents died. Be sure to list any additional cash benefits your child definitely would be entitled to. Also list any cash benefits your child might be eligible for.
Will: Describe the location of any will for your child and provide the names, addresses and phone numbers of the lawyers involved and of the executors.
Safe-deposit box: List any safe-deposit boxes owned by your child, the address of the depository, the contents and the name of any person who has power of attorney to enter the box.
Life insurance: Describe any relevant life insurance - group or individual - on your child. List the face value, the insurance company, policy number, beneficiaries and where the policy is kept.
Burial papers: List the location of the documents of burial for your child (deed, instructions for burial, organ donations), the cemeteries addresses and the preferred undertaker.
Health insurance: Describe any relevant health insurance for your child, including hospital, major medical and accident insurance. List the type of coverage, the amount of benefits, the insurance company, the policy number and the place the policy is kept.
Employment saving plans: Describe any relevant employee saving plans for your child, including the employer's name, type of plan, value and date of valuation.
Income tax: Describe the relevant income tax information about your child. Indicate the locations of the following papers; the records for the current year, the latest full-year return and its supporting documents, and earlier returns and documents.
Real estate: Describe the location of real estate records if your child plans to live in your home. Include the location of purchase records, deed, receipts for capital improvements, inventory of contents and property tax receipts.
Trust: Describe any trusts established for your child. Include the type of trust; the names, addresses and phone numbers of all trustee's; and the recent value.
Advisors: Name all advisors, such as lawyers, tax preparers, insurance agents or financial planners. List their addresses and phone numbers.
Other: Describe the location of your child's guardianship papers; school records; phone number of current case workers, if any; copies of birth certificate; Financial Support Program Forms; information about Financial Support Program and other Government benefits including most-recent completed application forms.
Letter of Intent
As set forth in your “letter of Intent”, you can be reasonably assured that the trustee will spend the money for vacations and recreational activities for your child and will refrain from spending the assets for his basic support and maintenance.
The Trustee has no ulterior motives except to administer the funds in the Trust the way you have directed in your letter of intent. As long as the money holds out, you can be assured that your child will be provided with vacation and recreational activities long after you death.
In order to appreciate the final advantage of the Trust arrangement, you should be aware that the Trust must be structured in such a fashion so that the principal and income of the Trust estate is not considered to be the property of the beneficiary. After all, she/he is only entitled to receive what the Trustee decides to give her/him within the framework of the instructions you have given the Trustee. Furthermore, your child has only a lifetime interest in this trust and his brothers and sisters may expect to receive whatever is left in the Trust estate upon the death of the primary beneficiary.
For these reasons, the government, or other creditors of your child, should not be able to reach the Trust assets to satisfy their claims. Since the law recognizes that the Trust assets, until distributed, are not the property of your child, those assets should not be taken into consideration in determining whether your child is eligible to receive government financial support such as Ontario Disability Support Program.
INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR CHILD YOU NEED TO GATHER TO PREPARE LETTER OF INTENT